What if I told you the key to success? That if you could nail down this one little thing, you would be able to achieve anything you want?
Would you be interested?
Of course you would.
What I’m going to tell you is simple, but not necessarily easy.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
I have seen it time and again. The people who see success, are the people who take responsibility for their own shit.
You’re unemployed? Stop blaming circumstance, or immigrants.
You got an F? Stop blaming circumstance, or your teacher.
You’re overweight? Stop blaming circumstance, or Ronald McDonald for opening his restaurant on the corner of your block. Or donuts and ice-cream for being too damn tasty.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself
You can give yourself a million excuses about why you are the way that you are, or why you’re in the situation you’re in, and some, or all of them may be valid. But you know what they’ll do to change things? Jack shit.
Everybody has reasons why they can’t. Some people choose to shelter themselves behind these, and some people use them as motivation to succeed.
I used to be one of the former. I blamed everybody around me for my circumstances, some very vocally, and others more inwardly, but I blamed them.
Truth was, no one was responsible for the mess I’d made of my life other than me.
People may have done some real bad shit to you. I am not downplaying that, not at all. But for every bitter and resentful person out there blaming their past on why they are sad, alone, broke, fat, or whatever, there is another with similar circumstances who is living life with gusto.
What is the difference?
Put Up Or Shut Up
Of course there are reasons why you are like you are, but there is a single reason why you stay where you are. You keep giving yourself excuses. So unless you are willing to make a change, to take responsibility and take action, just be honest about it and say you can’t be bothered, or you’re afraid, or other things in your life are of higher priority.
Willingness to make a change is not a single decision. It’s not a one time thing. It is a mindset. It is an attitude. You see something in your life that you’re not happy with and you set yourself about improving it regardless of how you got that way.
Instead of moping and feeling sorry for yourself, you take action.
This can be learned, but it will take effort. It’ll take you to look at the exact same things with a new set of eyes.
You must train yourself to see obstacles not as excuses, but as challenges. I remember hearing that the Chinese had the same word for problem and opportunity. I have no idea whether this is factual or not but the precept is true. The difference is simply in the perspective of the looker.
Don’t be a whiner. It seems to be more prevalent than ever nowadays to blame surroundings, upbringing, or Donald Trump on your problems. Take responsibility for your own shit, there is something strangely liberating about it.
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